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The New Millennial Gay Experience

Being gay in our emerging new world

Coming Soon!

ShortCuts become an official new part of the site???  

By Lane Forsman

Lane makes an important distinction between the concepts of assimilation and integration. He wants to be integrated.

By Farid-ul-Haq

A gay Muslim looks at the inherent conflict between his sexual identity and his religion.

By Dennis Stone

When Harvey Milk's killer was convicted of manslaughter rather than murder the gays of San Francisco were not too happy....

By Dennis Stone

Some over-sensitive gay critics attacked the Franco roast as homophobic. Why they're wrong.

By Lucas Butler

Why "liberation ideology" isn't so important in Lucas' school

By Farid-ul-Haq

Those who criticized Wentworth Miller for waiting until now to come out are wrong.

By Dennis Stone

I have been working on an article about the subject of gay boycotts. As I indicated in the “Coming Soon” section, the basic premise was that “boycotts are dumb.” There are multiple reasons for thinking that, and I had a well detailed case to make, with multiple examples and impeccable logic (!). However, in researching the issue I began to have some second thoughts. Not about the ways in which I think boycotts are dumb – those points remain valid - but rather about a growing realization that there is another side to the story, a side to which I had perhaps not given enough credit.

So I’ve changed my original plan for that story, and have abandoned my original advocacy piece on the subject. I want to think things through more thoroughly. However, I nonetheless want to address the issue now on a less definitive basis.

So what are the ways in which boycotts are dumb?

By Farid-ul-Haq

(Editor’s note: Understanding what it means to be gay in different countries is important for all of us. Farid’s articles about Pakistan are instructive, sad and hopeful, all at the same time. In a lot of ways, the situation in Pakistan reminds me of what it was like for many Americans in the 1970s and 1980s. I have hope that because of the internet and global interconnectedness, the pace of acceptance there will be faster than it was in the U.S. over the past 40 years.)

I think we all can agree that one of the most important things for anyone who is deciding to come out is support. This support can be sought from one’s family, friends or the LBGT community. Support from the community allows you to interact with people who know what you feel as well as the hardships you might have to face in your life. However, not everyone can get this kind of support. Living in countries like Pakistan where homosexuality is illegal, there are no “official” support groups that can help young gay people understand what they are feeling. The fear of not being accepted and understood is what causes people to remain in the closet. For them, living in secret is better than being out and risking losing the people they love.

Though there aren’t any official gay social groups in Pakistan, the informal groups that do exist can help gay men understand who they are. For any gay young man, the internet is his biggest friend. 

Check Out Our New (Possible) Front Page - And Our New Feature

Check out the "Test Page" tab to see a potential new reorganization of the front page of the site, and also a new feature called "ShortCuts". Programming and formatting the new page has been rather nasty. I'm not very good with technical stuff, so it's taken me all night to produce what you see on that tab. I didn't want to replace the current front page until I know it works properly, and I'm also interested in any feedback anyone has. If you click on the introductory article you can leave comments at the bottom.

I like the ShortCuts idea in principle, but the site gives me limited formatting possibilities, and I'm not completely satisfied with where it's at. But that's the best I could come up with after a whole night of trying different things. 

Here's how it would be organized. The most recent story would be featured at the top of the page. Then the Coming Soon and Recent Articles sections would be on the left. The larger section on the right would be for the new ShortCuts commentaries and cultural recommendations.

Give it a look!

By Dback

If neither Streisand nor Midler were a gay man’s choice of diva in the 70’s, there were plenty of other up-and-comers. Garland was gone, but her daughter Liza Minnelli exploded with her Oscar-winning role in Cabaret, her TV special “Liza with a Z,” and her own signature song, “New York, New York.” Her competition for the Best Actress Oscar?

Former Supremes star Diana Ross in Lady Sings the Blues, now gone solo and determined to eclipse Aretha Franklin as the preeminent black female superstar. “Miss Ross” would eventually alienate many with her instances of diva behavior, but not before she’d notched a fifteen-year run as a solo artist with many number one hits. (She also generously donated her songs free of charge to the filmmakers of the Oscar-winning short “Trevor,” about a gay boy who idolizes Ross.)

And just as Ross shucked off the Supremes in the 70’s to fly solo, a former hippie named Cher (who started out singing backup for the Ronettes on “Be My Baby”) reinvented herself...

By Dback

Since time immemorial - probably as long as theatrical, compelling women have been singing songs - gay men have loved their divas. I have no proof that there were gay men throwing their undershirts at Swedish opera songstress Jenny Lind during her U.S. tour of 1851, but it wouldn’t surprise me a bit.

What is it about the diva? Gay men idolize her, yes; some even want to be her, as thousands of YouTube videos ranging from the sublime to the ridiculous can attest. (The number of men who make a living as Cher impersonators is probably beyond my fathoming.) Do gays, who spend so much of their lives trying to be “real men” in the eyes of the world and their own bathroom mirrors, wish for the diva to be a kind of personal “fairy godmother” - the one who understands our pain, our frustration, our desire to triumph, and alchemizes it into musical gold? Do we project our fears, our sorrows, and our triumphs onto her, she who may occasionally be underrated or underestimated as too plain, too “theatrical,” or too threatening for straight society?

Or is this no longer true? As the gay community has grown and matured over the past several decades, do we really need “the diva” anymore?